How to learn from experience II: “You look like my next mistake.”

Keep moving. Or do what I do and stick to the same pattern! Actually, it’s what I used to do. I wrote about Taylor Swift (TS) songs and one of my first heartbreaks in my last post, so I figured why stop now? Before I married the real love of my life, I dated. Some dates were casual and some turned into relationships like my two CKs. The two CKs in my life were very different, but they also had something in common. I went shopping all the time. Okay, that’s not the commonality, but I did shop a lot in those days lol.

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I was married to one CK. Think of TS’s song “Style.” That was us. Off and on and really (no really) bad for one another. As for the other CK, I can’t think of a TS song that represents that relationship. Maybe “I knew you were trouble?”  I was going through a really rough patch (divorce from the first CK and a legal thing), so the song doesn’t really describe all of my emotions. It’s probably more accurate to say it was TS’s monologue before the video starts.

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At the time, CK 2 made me feel alive because CK 1 made me want to die, so yeah it was a feeling like I didn’t know if I was “ever gonna feel that way again. But I [didn’t] know if I should.” In retrospect, it’s really sad that feeling ‘alive’ was important to me, but now that I’m thinking of it, I did watch Dawson’s Creek DVDs 24/7 at that time. Apparently, experience does not negate my inner drama queen and media feeds my demons.

Perhaps that’s why I find TS’s lyrics so relatable. When some people feel, we feel it in our bones and it hurts affects everything around us. Actually, I just realized I have half a TS song for my husband.

I’m wearing

Outfit: Egoisme – Leather Bodysuit for Maitreya in Pink Leather (Fat Pack offers alternative colors and texture)
Jewelry: Dark Mouse Vintage 50’s Pearl & Diamond Earrings
Hair: D!va Hair “Gabriella” in Citrine
Body Parts: LAQ Head Trinity and Maitreya Body Lara,
Pose(s): oOo Studio city_five_m and Manifeste- Model_730
Background: Birdy Boudoir Clothing Rack and  Divider Screen @ The Arcade September 2016

 

How to learn from experience:”All [he] had to do was stay…”

This is a continuation of an earlier post.  My boss walked into my office in the middle of a Taylor Swift binge, so I shared why I appreciate her lyrics. I’m not sure he bought it, but I let him know that some of my favorite Swift songs have described some of my deepest and painful heartbreaks. Suddenly, I remembered heartbreak may be a natural occurrence.

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In an earlier blog, I wanted to save my younger co-workers from heartbreak, but that’s not possible. They need it. I had it, and my breakups were tragic at the time.  Fast forward > I ended up with my hubby aka love of my life. Really, I think I needed to experience love lost because I don’t think it would have worked had I met my hubby earlier.

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In a breakup, the tunnel seems bleak, but there really is light at the end. Of course, we can’t see it until we reach the end.

The inspiration for this post was Swift’s song “All you had to do was stay.” It reminds me of my first heartbreak. We’ll call him AB. He was the start of my dark relationship tunnel and the only one who wanted to get back together after we broke up. Too much had happened in the meantime such as “picking up the pieces of the mess [he] made” and all I could think of was “but not like this.” Like I said…it seems dark, but keep moving.😉

I’m wearing

Jewelry: Chop Zuey The Chanel Necklace, Earrings (small), Bracelets, and Ring (Hematite) @Designer Showcase September 2016 Round
Outfit: C’est la vie! Zelie dress in Black for Maitreya
Hair: booN Lab.004 hair
Shoes: Apple May Birthday Heels for Maitreya
Body Parts: LAQ Head Trinity and Maitreya Body Lara,
Pose(s): **Manifeste** – Model_616 and Everglow Soft 06
Location: Paris Je T’aime 

“Welcome to the room of people / Who have rooms of people that they loved one day…”

And this is what happens when my husband does not allow our pups in his gaming room.

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Lol, kidding. I didn’t lock him in that room.  ;)

I’m wearing
Outfit: AnaMarkova Zendra in Lovely for Maitreya @Designer Showcase September 2016 Round
Shoes: *katat0nik* (red / LT) Strap Boot and *katat0nik* (white / RT) Strap Boot (Rare) @The Arcade September 2016
Hair: Runaway Harley
Body Parts: LeLutka.Mesh Head-Simone, Maitreya Body Lara, Slink Avatar Hands Relaxed and Mouse
Prop: MadPea Why So Mad? – Barbie (June 2016 Arcade Item)
Pose: Focus Poses. Friends 15

Sunshine is wearing
Outfit: AnaMarkova Zendra in Therapy for Maitreya @Designer Showcase September 2016 Round
Shoes: *katat0nik* (black / LT) D-Ring Boot (Rare) @The Arcade September 2016
Hair: TuKinoWaguma Tapia @Hairology
Body Parts: LeLutka. Head Stella and Maitreya Body Lara

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#PokémonGoals

I wonder if my hubby would go for a Pokémon Halloween theme this year. I’ll be Pikachu, of course, and he can be the Pokéball. Or, he can be my trainer and just toss balls at me. That sounds slightly dirty, but, hey, I am married y’all.😉

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You see, I got sucked into Pokémon Go, and I really don’t know why.  I never played Pokémon. I knew of certain characters but that is only because Pikachu is so cute!

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So, I have become that person who pretends she’s engrossed in her phone due to a text, email, or news breaking story when I really just have Pokémon Go in the background. I paint a pretty convincing picture eh?

I’m wearing

Outfit: #bubbles Blayke Pearl Blush Sheer Top + Black Print Skirt [Maitreya] or click here for Marketplace
Hair: Exile::Cold @The Arcade September
Body Parts: Body parts: Laq Trinity and Maitreya Lara
Jewelry: Chop Zuey San Guerlian Cameo Pearl Choker A
Shoes: Pure Poison – Artisan Cloud Flat Sandals – Maitreya
Prop: REIGN.- Glitter Posh Phone- #17 @The Arcade September
Pose: [KoKoLoReS] Lazin’ pose 002
Location: LaPerla

The show must go on…

While many hard-working peeps are celebrating Labor Day, I am mourning the unofficial end of summer.

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Before too long, the sun will set much earlier and I’ll have to pull my sun lamp out of storage. Las Vegas does not get terribly cold, but the sun sets around 4:30 PM and that is just too early for my taste and for my moods.

Labor Day 2016

I think Blac Label Boutique feels my pain and can’t embrace the Fall season just yet. Blac Quartz has an exclusive piece for Designer Showcase’s September round. It’s called Savage and is business up front and party in the back. So, if you can’t let go of summer quite yet, be a savage and hold on to the sun as long as you can.

I’m wearing

Outfit: Blac Label Boutique Savage Halter Blush and Savage Skort Almond @Designer Showcase 
Shoes: Momento. ballet flats Maitreya beige (Gacha Item)
Hair:*Argrace* Mayu
Ring: (Yummy) Carolyn Crown – Diamond @The Arcade September
Body parts: Laq Trinity and Maitreya Lara
Poses:**Manifeste** – Model_616 and oOo city five

Location: Paris Je T’aime

“Who knows why it’s gotta be this way”

Trying to understand the bigger picture is harder than it seems. In the past, I got so focused, I could only see what was in front of me, so I missed what I needed to see.

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Okay, I also ignored what I needed to see too lol. The mind can be so convenient at times.

This is what you came for

Right now, my mind is on top of it because I am getting better at seeing the whole picture.

Music is what feelings sound like

And right now, I understand that I was pretty much an idiot when I was younger, so I can’t blame my young employees for making the same mistakes I did. I wish I could save them.

But such is life eh?

I’m wearing

Outfit: PurpleMoon Creations Still Latex Dress for Maitreya @ Fetish Fair 2016 (open for one more day due to popular demand)
Heels: [Ketamine] Fetish Shoes for Slink @ Fetish Fair 2016 (open for one more day due to popular demand)
Earrings::Dressed By Lexi:: Mystique
Earrings: Ben’s Beauty and Boutique– Polly Earrings
Ring: REIGN.- SAY IT! Knuckle Rings- Diva (previous Arcade item)
Hair: Rezology Silent Lips w/ Lusterlight
Body parts: LAQ Head Trinity, Maitreya Body Lara, and Slink Feet High
Poses: Glitter Poses Model 1 and 5
Location: Radio Geko

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One (1) More Day to go Around the World

Sascha’s Designs has an exclusive piece at Swank’s “Around the World” August round, and it is a symphony of brilliant colors and patterns.

Around the World

It actually has a shoulder decoration as well, but I opted to go strapless because I love the dainty ruffles around the bust.

One More Day

Now, since you only have one more day to go around the world, you better get hopping. Click here for your private jet.

I’m wearing

Outfit: Sascha’s Designs – Calpurnia Caracas @ Swank (Round ends 8/31)
Earrings: Baubles! by Phe Mina Earrings (Designer Showcase August)
Hair: Vanity Hair:La Espanola
Brain: LAQ Trinity
Skin: *Birth* Opal Skin (LAQ Applier for Gacha Guardians)
Pose 1: Glitter Poses Model Runway 4
Pose 2: *agapee*-gown326-1
Location: Astralia

“Remember that there’s someone there whose heart is always true…”

So hubby, “I’ll always be the man in love with you.” Um..woman. You know what I mean. Readers, you probably do not, so let me take you back to Christmas 2015.

Remember that there's someone there whose heart is always true

In 2015, my husband and I celebrated our first Christmas as a married couple so I was on the lookout for cutesy commemoration gifts to throw under the tree. Hobby Lobby had the cutest mugs in the checkout aisle that read “I heart my husband” and “I heart my wife.” Initially, I grabbed the heart wife mug for a gift, but I rethought that decision while standing in line. It was almost Christmas so that line was long.

Someone there to help you make it through

I decided it was too presumptuous to expect my hubby to drink out of a mug that proclaimed he loved his wife. After all, since it was a gift, I should demonstrate my love for my husband right?

I will always be the man in love with you

So, I purchased the “I heart my husband” mug as a gift for my new hubby. On the drive home, I pictured my husband drinking from that mug. It wasn’t what I imagined lol, so my mug purchase has been a running joke ever since.

A joke, but it’s also a sweet memory. If you’re going to tie the knot in SL,  check out Styles by Danielle’s Roberta Bridal Gown. It contains 13 textures with Danielle’s trademark elaborate lace.  Also, group members have a 30% discount and other perks, so you may want to add to your group list!

Click Styles by Danielle for an in-world lift or if you feel like shopping out of world, click here for Styles by Danielle on MP so you can try a demo. Trying on wedding dresses is so much fun. I highly recommend it in RL and SL.🙂

Credits:
Outfit: Styles by Danielle Roberta Bridal in Pink
Ring: (Yummy) Modest Crown – Silver
Earrings: LaGyo_Mother’s pearl earrings
Brain: LAQ Trinity
Body: Maitreya Lara
Hair: Miamai Giselle
Poses: agapee-gown291-1; Del May – Aloft; and agapee-gown326-1
Accessories: The Loft – Wedding Reception Blossom Cake 1 and Round Table White (Arcade June 2016)
Flowers: anc “secret garden” Soft and Dark Pink @ Collabor88

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Oops, I did it again: A Prozac Stipulation

Have you ever felt like you won the battle? I have. Have you ever realized that the battle only exists in your head? The odds must be in my favor because, again, I have.

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Though, I should warn you. Winning a battle that was basically created in your head is satisfying, but a lonely experience if you need attention. Prozac does not solve everything.

I did it again

You see my problem is this
I’m dreaming away
Wishing that heroes, they truly exist
I cry, watching the days
Can’t you see I’m a fool in so many ways[?]

Yep, I’m a fool in that I want a hero (aka my hubby) to save me because I know at the end of the day, I have to save myself. Since I am the one who makes up my battles, it’s only fair, right?😉

I’m wearing:
Outfit: Finale Couture Acadia  – Exclusive Bali Blue @ Designer Showcase
Shoes: Finale Couture Acadia Heels – Bali Blue @ Designer Showcase
Jewelry:  Finale Couture Acadia Heels – Bali Blue @ Designer Showcase
Brain: Laqroki Trinity
Hair: Vanity Hair:All About It

Sunshine is wearing:
Outfit: Finale Couture Harper in Lemon
Brain: Lelutka Stella
Shoes: Pure Poison – Isahara Sandals @ Collabor88
Hair: Vanity Hair:Garota @ Hairology

Pose 1: Purple Poses Friends 144
Poses 2: Label Motion Bunny 4 (Sunshine) **Manifeste** – Editorial_29 (me)
Background: Exposeur & The Loft – Room of Balloons

Post title’s inspiration and quote pinched from Britney Spears (edited because the original YouTube clip I included was taken away. I really loved that version because it highlighted the choreography. This version brings the same vibe).

 

The danger of drifting: “Go away from me [and] leave me alone.”

This is what happens when I listen to 90’s music all night long. Total angst. Surely, I’m not the only one this happens to…right? I’ll have to test my hubby tomorrow. Stay tuned for results!

Drifting

Actually, he’ll never go for that. When he drifts, he listens to old country, and I can’t go for that lol.

Taking my time

At least we have nothing but time, and when you think about it, time is everything.😉

Credits:

Top: FurtaCor*Isa Fringe Top @ Designer Showcase
Bottom: Maitreya High Waisted Shorts Torn for Lara @ Mesh Body Addicts Fair
Shoes: Empire – Tritonia – Maitreya @ Mesh Body Addicts Fair
Purse: *YS&YS* Viareggio Bag Weave
Glasses: RYCA Jewelry
Hair: Truth Opal
Brain: LAQ ~ Mesh Head Trinity 1.0
Poses: KoKoLoReS Lazin’ pose 002 and Manifeste Model 708
Location: Baja Sands

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